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De-mystify social interactions with three questions: Can he feed you? Can he affect your livelihood? If you can't get a meal, can he lend a hand? If the answer is no to all, then it doesn't matter who the other person is.

Most psychological traumas can be summarized by three confusions: confusing imagination with reality, confusing feelings with reality, and confusing others with oneself. What does this mean? Let's break it down one by one. Confusing imagination with reality refers to the inability to distinguish between exaggerated fantasies and objective facts. A typical example is catastrophic thinking, where any problem is imagined as a huge disaster. Another is the constant feeling that the whole world’s attention is on oneself, that everyone is watching every move, magnifying others’ opinions—these all st

Never ask others for the reason. Since the event has already happened, the reason becomes less important. The reason you want an answer is because you cannot resolve the issue. Remember, the fewer words people speak, the more focused their energy and the stronger their presence. If others want to tell you the reason, they will do so proactively. If they don't tell you, don't break the silence.

If a person does not pass the test of wealth, how can they understand the hardships of earning a few coins? If they do not pass the test of emotions, how can they experience the bitterness in friendship, love, and family bonds? If they do not pass the test of health, how can they comprehend the pain of being plagued by illness all day? These sufferings, these lessons, are what help you elevate to a heart filled with great love, free from biased and selfish love. Only then can you truly undergo a transformation, becoming a person inherently complete in oneself. Because life is a journey of cult

What is the worst quality in a person? Hypocrisy. Therefore, anyone, whether man or woman, if this world is filled with pretentiousness and hypocrisy, society will definitely become very, very frightening. Charlie Munger said that cooperating with people, especially, is very, very important, and that is sincerity.

There is a very frightening type of person in psychology, and that is someone who cannot communicate properly. For this type of person, we have a professional term called emotion dysregulation. They find it very difficult to communicate calmly with others in intimate relationships, often starting conversations with anger or extreme states. Even when they want to express concern, their speech is laced with hostility, sarcasm, and a sense of gunpowder, full of hostility. Moreover, the closer the relationship, the worse their attitude may become. People with emotional barriers often carry deep tr

The higher the level, the more one understands gray thinking. The greater their acceptance of the gray areas of society and human nature, the more they can accept both sunlight and shadows, kindness and desire. They can hold various seemingly contradictory viewpoints in their hearts. They never blindly believe in black-and-white fairy tales, so they are more adept at flexibility and compromise, making it easier to find a breakthrough in chaos. Gray thinking is not about abandoning one's values; on the contrary, their values are extremely firm, like the compass we hold when climbing a mountain,

The awakening of subjectivity is actually an awakening to the cost. It requires you to be very brave to step into the unknown and endure the pain of rupture. Becoming oneself has never been an easy task. We may harbor some unrealistic fantasies about subjectivity because it is seen as the cure for all unhappiness and internal conflict. Having subjectivity means you can be completely unaffected by the outside world, free and unrestrained. It seems that subjectivity is an indispensable trait of our era. Therefore, your urgent desire to attain subjectivity instead makes you feel intense discomfor

Does an ordinary person have a choice in life? For the vast majority of ordinary people, the answer is almost no. Because many people are essentially "pre-made." What we should be most wary of is not pre-made dishes, but pre-made people. The so-called pre-made person is someone who, in the first twenty years, has had a set of "life operating systems" installed early by society, education, and environment. The process is almost identical: studying → going to college → finding a job → getting married → buying a house → having children → supporting children’s education → children going to college

Those who truly live better than you won't attack you. Those who attack you are people who are not as well off as you, petty individuals who can never turn their lives around. The poor resort to schemes, while the wealthy cultivate kindness.

To become stronger, is it necessary to choose solitude? In many cases, the answer is: yes. You will find that many people who prefer to mingle in crowds for a long time tend to become mobs. When alone, a person is often more rational and clearer-headed; but once in a group, they tend to follow blindly and become emotional. When people immerse themselves in groups, their ability for independent thinking often diminishes, they abandon their own judgment, and actively conform to the group just to gain a sense of security and acceptance. Therefore, solitude makes it easier to develop an independen

When I was at my most impulsive, you hesitated. Fortunately, you hesitated. The phrase "taste a little and stop" is very fitting here, as if fate gently let you and me go. Just before I was about to indulge, it softly covered my eyes and said, "This is as far as you go on this path." Fate has been kind to me, reluctant to see someone who dares to love and hate like me waste away for you.

How can ordinary people turn their lives around? The answer is to be a little poorer. Those who are so poor that they have no way out are not lacking the ability to break through. People who muddle through each day, constantly worried and anxious, are not truly poor. Only when everything supporting you collapses and you are powerless in the face of certain situations will you grow instantly. Only through complete despair can you forge unstoppable courage, because from this moment on, you truly take control of your life after being hurt by fate. To gain something, you must first give it. When y

Allow others to change their minds, allow others to weigh the pros and cons, allow others to make choices after careful consideration, accept the divergence and setbacks in the world, let others choose a better life for themselves, I can do it too! Suddenly, I had an epiphany—so this is what it means to be at peace. The biggest gain of the year: learning to accept defeat, exit, and pay the price; learning to let go and forgive myself.

Exercise can solve 80% of diseases;
Reading can determine 60% of fate;
Indifference can save 80% of trouble;
Having money can solve 90% of worries;
Action can achieve 70% of goals;
Self-discipline can control 70% of life;
Going to bed early can recover 80% of energy;
Letting go can reduce 90% of obsessions;
Smiling can bring 60% of good luck.

If you are already an adult, with a simple personality and straightforward thoughts, it is usually not due to a lack of personal ability, but rather because the growth environment did not provide the conditions to learn complex interpersonal interactions. A person's social skills largely stem from the examples and training provided by the family in early childhood, rather than being innate.
The first common situation is that parents are honest and straightforward, repeatedly emphasizing kindness, obedience, and tolerance, but lack the ability to handle conflicts and establish boundaries. When

Keep your distance, so no bad person gets too close. Anyone could be a bad person, and any enemy is often someone you once knew very well.

Historically, those who divide the cake will eventually find that the cake has become so small that they can't even share it themselves. When a system long-term "refuses to/makes no effort to grow the cake" and relies solely on increasingly forceful "dividing of the existing cake" to maintain control and legitimacy, it will inevitably face a critical point: either the底层 completely lose patience, or the middle/elite classes also start to centrifugalize, or external pressure shatters the entire pot.

Currently, China is more like a household where the inept man spends all the family savings, often idling outside and getting involved in affairs. At home, he only abuses his wife and children and achieves nothing.

Never worry in advance; things will be resolved in strange ways. The problems you're worried about now are very likely to be resolved in some inexplicable manner in the future. For example, someone might help you, or you might have a sudden inspiration, or time might fade the issue, or you might stop caring.