To understand whether a child is experiencing long-term feelings of depression or tension, parents can pay attention to these five everyday details. These signs are not definitive diagnoses but serve as references to help parents better understand their child's inner state.

1. Observe the child's state when they are "bored": Some children become anxious and restless when they have no plans, eager to seek external stimulation; others can sit quietly, observe, or find things to do on their own. If a child cannot be alone for long periods and constantly needs to be engaged, it may indicate difficulty relaxing internally; children who enjoy boredom and can entertain themselves usually have better self-regulation skills.
2. Listen to what the child says to themselves: It is normal for children to talk to themselves while playing or thinking. If the content is mostly self-critical or anxious worries, it may reflect high stress levels; if they are telling stories, solving problems, or engaging in imaginative play, it usually indicates a relaxed and secure inner state.
3. Observe their reaction to changes: When plans are disrupted, most children feel disappointed. The difference lies in how long their emotions last and how easily they recover; some children remain upset for a long time and find it hard to settle down, while others may feel unhappy but can gradually accept and find new arrangements. The ability to adapt to change is often related to a sense of security and emotional regulation experience.
4. Notice how they perceive jokes: If a child often interprets kind jokes as criticism or mockery, it may suggest they are sensitive or lack a sense of security. Children who understand jokes and can occasionally joke about themselves are usually more relaxed in relationships. However, this depends on the environment being respectful and friendly.
5. Pay attention to how they view others' success: Some children may feel pressured or doubt themselves due to comparisons; others can be happy for friends while maintaining confidence in themselves. If a child constantly negates themselves because of others' achievements, parents can help them build a stable sense of self-worth.