Raising children actually starts with educating yourself first. Have you done these? First, emotional management: how we handle anger, anxiety, and frustration, children will silently imitate. Second, consistency in words and actions: whether we practice what we preach, which is more powerful than just lecturing. Third, the attitude of learning and reflection: whether we are willing to admit mistakes and continue learning, which is the best example. Fourth, respect for others: how we treat partners, parents, and strangers will become the template for children to understand "relationships." Instead of asking "Why is the child so disobedient," it's better to ask yourself: "Am I living the way I want my child to become in the future at this moment?"