Allow others to change their minds, allow others to weigh the pros and cons, allow others to make choices after careful consideration, accept the divergence and setbacks in the world, let others choose a better life for themselves, I can do it too! Suddenly, I had an epiphany—so this is what it means to be at peace. The biggest gain of the year: learning to accept defeat, exit, and pay the price; learning to let go and forgive myself.