Marriage and relationship issues are trending again huh? 🌚 Married people really do have a say in this.
I think choosing a partner who sets boundaries before marriage and has a sense of contractual commitment—these two steps are more important than anything else.
The biggest contract my husband and I made before marriage was: each family handles their own parents.
Whatever complaints your parents have about me, don't let me hear about it. You can relay things tactfully, but whether I listen or not is my decision. Similarly, I'll handle my own parents.
Our business shouldn't be interfered with by our parents.
I don't do housework; I'll hire a cleaning service to come over. If your family doesn't accept it, you go communicate with them—don't come argue with me. Similarly, I've already told my parents that if they have any complaints about my husband, talk to me first.
Anyway, from before marriage until now, my husband has done really well. I haven't heard his parents say anything about me, and even if they talk behind my back, I can't hear it, so I just pretend it didn't happen.
Criticism from outside shouldn't—and isn't allowed to—be directly projected onto your partner.
This way, you avoid 90% of family conflicts.
As for my husband and me, well, we haven't argued in six months. Sometimes I try to start something to argue about, but it just doesn't catch on.
Marriage and relationship issues are trending again huh? 🌚 Married people really do have a say in this.
I think choosing a partner who sets boundaries before marriage and has a sense of contractual commitment—these two steps are more important than anything else.
The biggest contract my husband and I made before marriage was: each family handles their own parents.
Whatever complaints your parents have about me, don't let me hear about it. You can relay things tactfully, but whether I listen or not is my decision. Similarly, I'll handle my own parents.
Our business shouldn't be interfered with by our parents.
I don't do housework; I'll hire a cleaning service to come over. If your family doesn't accept it, you go communicate with them—don't come argue with me. Similarly, I've already told my parents that if they have any complaints about my husband, talk to me first.
Anyway, from before marriage until now, my husband has done really well. I haven't heard his parents say anything about me, and even if they talk behind my back, I can't hear it, so I just pretend it didn't happen.
Criticism from outside shouldn't—and isn't allowed to—be directly projected onto your partner.
This way, you avoid 90% of family conflicts.
As for my husband and me, well, we haven't argued in six months. Sometimes I try to start something to argue about, but it just doesn't catch on.
It's like we're an old married couple. 🙃